My Hostfamily-Situation

Heyy,

This post is just to clarify some things about my hostfamily change, my reasons and the complications it brought with it.

So, I didn't change my family because I hate them or they hate me...it's actually more of different definitions of the word 'family'. I think in my case family means that I have a connection with the people I live with. By connection I mean that my hostfamily and I should at least talk more than just the simple small-talk thing...That's fine if you just met someone and don't really know anything about this person, but if you've already spent months with this person and you're supposed to live even more months with them, you should start to know her/him better. In my old hostfamily I felt like we just didn't talk about anything but 'how was your day?' and 'how are you?'. All in all, there has never happened any kind of family life that included me. It more felt like a hotel that I pay way too much money to, sorry if my old hostfamily reads this right now, but that's just how I saw the things. Even when I wanted to talk to them about the change and when I wanted to explain my decision, they never found time for me.

In the meantime I met the hostfamily of my very good friend, Nadja. Once I met them, I immediately liked them. I spent more and more time over at Nadja's house and I started getting to know the family pretty good. We had many dinners together, I invited them for sushi and we also had a good time for Christmas.

So I decided that it'd be better for everyone if I change my hostfamily, once Nadja is leaving Vancouver. I would be happier with my family, the right family would be getting paid for me being part of their life and I wouldn't bother my old hostfamily with my existance or my need to feel included in their life. So I met the person in charge of the hostfamilies and their students and we talked about the change. She said It'd be no problem to change the family, but she had to tell them in December, that I would change in Febuary. She said it's because then they can make new arrangements for their next student. I understood that in the first place, but I was kinda worried about how they would react. So she said I shouldn't be home for the days after she'd tell them about my decision. So I spent the next days at Nadja's. In the end of December (I hadn't been home since she told my old hostfam that I'm going to change) the agent for the familys called me and said that there's a problem; My old hostfaily didn't want me to stay for January at their house, cause they wanted 'a break' from students (even thogh they still had 2 other internationals and an own daughter). I was very shocked and was kinda worried about the outcome and what would happen in January, even though I knew I could count on my future hostfamily that I could stay at their house in case I had no where to got to. And that folks, is how to leave me confused over christmas time.

Now, the agent conveyed me to another hostfamily, which I already knew from another friend, who already left. That's why I had to pack all my stuff on Dec 30th. Leave my bigger stuff at Nadja's house and move on Jan 3rd with just the most necessary stuff to my second hostfamily.

Currently I'm with my meantime-family for January. On the first of Feb I'm going to change again in Nadja's family.

I hope by now you're not as confused about this as I am.

Thanks for reading :)

PS: I'm having a new playlist I'm listening to and I'm soo addicted to it :D Currently I'm listening to 'Indian Summer - Shiner ft. Ginger & The Ghost' and the next song is 'Herzeloyde - Push' and it goes on with 'Durante - Slow Burn ft. Chuck Ellis' and next 'Slow Magic - Girls' and so on...